This and That

Sooo, busy day for the SWW and I.  She had therapy this morning then my BFF came over, we dropped the SWW off at music play and went out to lunch.  I passed on baby girl stuff to my BFF's sister who has a daughter.  Her daughter is kind of a miracle. She did IF and did one last FET.  Her fertility doctor told her it wasn't a viable pregnancy and she should have a D&C.  She opted told the doctor she wanted to wait two weeks.  Now she and her her husband have a daughter.  Is she perfect?  Well, her ears lobes are slightly flawed and when she's older she will have plasic surgery to have them remade and she has a slight hearing loss, but she's a beautiful child and I'm sure her parents think she is perfect in every way.  Soooo, my BFF had given me a ton of baby stuff when our little one came along and I hardly had to buy any new clothing or anything which was such a savings.  Now I'm just passing it on to her sister.  So we have this nice used childrens clothing/toys/items trifecta. 

Anyway, back to the SWW.  My mom who doesn't see her as much as I do points out changes that aren't obvious to me.  Today she pointed out that she doesn't seem to get as angry and frustrated as she used to.  Then we were talking about her therapy being useful and the fact that she was turned down for health care coverage since we have our own insurance.  Well, I called our insurance and it turns out we have one thousand dollars in coverage for this type of therapy that we are obviously going to go through, and we don't have the money to pay for it.  In order for us to get coverage through the state I have to get an official "diagnosis" and I don't want a "label" because once that label is there it will color our opinions and feelings no matter what.  Plus at this point she's impoving and could theoretically outgrow all of this and be fine.  My BFF says that her son is very similar to the SWW and he out grew it.  He's now in 2nd grade.  So, I guess at this point we're going to swallow our pride and let my parents pay for the therapy so she continutues to improve and see where we are in a year. 

The occupational therapist thinks I should complain to the head of the county early intervetion program because the SWW's therapist who is a special education teacher said she was on the spectrum twice to me and she doesn't have the background to give her that diagnosis.  Nor does she agree, and the fact that she inhaled meth in utero along w/a birth mother who smoked should not be overlooked.