Through Rose Colored Glasses

Sooo, I'm taking the little one to a place for evaluation tomorrow.  My dad is going with me.  He and my mom both agree that she needs some sort of therapy/support, that something is not right with the little one.  The only one who looks at her with rose colored glasses is my husband.  He thinks that I'm just trying to pawn her off on other people and resources because I don't want to spend the time parenting.  Um no, that's not so.  She has behavioral issues.  What kind of kid does things on purpose to get their parents attention.  He thinks I'm not spending enough time with her.  She purposely misbehaves to get a reaction from me and he thinks it's my fault?  She wants to be the center of attention at all times.  We give her melatonin to help her sleep at night because she won't relax and she'd too young to be able to meditate and yesterday he told me that he thinks we're drugging our child.  He then said that if something happens to her it will be my fault.   Ok, so we're giving a kid 1mg of melatonin to help her relax and get to sleep.  We're switching pediatricians, a practice that deals with children who have "issues" more like ADHD, autism, behavioral, etc.  I made an appointment with the doctor for next week to make sure it's the right choice before I have her records sent over.  Did my husband help me select?  Has he helped me with the medical assistance form?  Nope, but he would be the first to blame me if it was not the right choice.  Anyway, he only looks at her with love and is not seeing what needs to be worked on. I'm frustrated and feeling alone.  He thinks I have all this free time while she's in pre-school to relax.  Yes, I have free time, but I'm totally stressed out about the strong willed wonder and NOT relaxing.  I want to sink my head into a glass of wine.