Steps are being taken

I took the first steps.  Made an appointment w/the therapist (covered by insurance) to discuss the MIL stuff.  I have to figures out how to tell husband that I can't live in a house w/the 2 moms.  Especially one as anxious and food oriented (because she's diabetic).  She likes everything just so and has definite ideas about everything regarding how households are run, type of detergent used, religion, politics (I'm liberal, she's not), and is so so insecure.  I would be her BFF.  Not that I don't love my MIL, I do, but I'm struggling to fit in and make friends as it is.  She says she would make new friends, but it will be easy for her to want to tag along w/me or make me feel obligated to invite her.   So, what do I want?  I want her to have her own apartment nearby in a location that has a large retired population so she can make friends, but we will be close by to assist when necessary.

I also emailed the adoption agency I am thinking of using for a sibling (they do traditional adoption, and various types of fostering).  I offered to volunteer and do clerical work.  They sent me the volunteer information.  Unfortunately said that volunteers are very necessary at a location that is NOT nearby (about a 2 hour drive on the other side of the city and there is a branch about a 1/2 hour away that I would prefer).  The suggested location is actually in the area where I grew up and went to graduate school and I would love to live in that town, but it is NOT near the husbands job.  Coincidentally coming back to me not liking the county we live in.  Yes, it's a county outside of Philadelphia, as was the one I grew up in, it's just so different from the one I grew up in.  It's one of the smallest counties around Philadelphia and most people who move here stay so there are many generations for each family living around each other.  Hence, they already have friends and family in the area and are not as friendly as in other areas.

Anyway, I'm waiting for the paperwork to arrive.  The email I got said the next step would be to go to one of the information sessions and they enclosed a listing.  I'm feeling a little nervous about it all.  I don't think I want another baby, I would actually prefer a slightly older child,but younger than the SWW.  I'm going to be the big 4-0 on the 17th and it makes me doubt even being chosen by an expectant mother.  My husband is 42.