Post infertility, adoption, a health condition, and living the best life possible
Monday, June 30, 2014
:-(
So in talking w/my therapist I realized that the reason my MIL bugs me so much is that she has a lot of the same traits as me. Unfortunately, the traits that I do not like about myself. The health condition and anxiety being top on the list of things that I don't like about myself and she has that just magnified in a 73 year old version. Where I am trying antidepressants and seeing a therapist to help me deal with it. She just becomes more anxious and obsessive compulsive. I guess we all have our way of dealing with stress in life. Upon thinking about it more, why didn't she bother me before? She was a not around us so much and I didn't see all the similarities. It wasn't until the possibility of her living w/us entered the picture where I said it was fine and then I spent more time w/her, she spent a week w/me, while my husband was out of town, my FIL had passed away and she began spending holidays and weekends with us that I realized. I NEED her to be in a separate location. Not far from us, the hour and a half thing is a far drive and I hate driving, just not in our house. Her own separate household for her eating stuff, bathroom issues, and odd sleeping hours. I am mad at myself for agreeing, and can't take it back now.
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Hey! Just stumbled on your blog, and read your blog post. My grandmother was all set to live with my parents. They were going to build on a Mother in law suite to the back of their house. I didn't exactly ask for the intricate plans or details, but I could tell my dad was hedging on it. In the end, she ended up buying her own house next door. It was perfect, she had her space, they had their space, and they were close by if she needed something. So, maybe you guys could do that or something similar? Also my aunt and uncle built their house with the idea that her dad would live there, and they built him a room downstairs with a separate entrance that had a kitchen and bathroom and everything he would need. It was like a studio apartment, but it was the size of a regular apartment, if that makes sense. Hope this helps, just remember you are not alone. Maybe she will start to miss her own space, and will come up with a solution to it as well.....
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