griping

Feeling a bit (ok a lot) b*tchy.  This is something that is p*ssing me off.  My MIL has health condition where she isn't creating enough red blood cells (or it is it white?).  Anyway, a number of years ago she had cancer, chemotherapy was the treatment for it and this is a side affect from that.  She has been griping and complaining about her hemoglobin levels, being tired, out of breath, etc.  Ok, she came here, went to a specialist at the huge teaching hospital I go to for my MS stuff and the doctor put her on a treatment.  She is using the crummy hospital by her.  I happened to see on the teaching hospitals website that the larger city nearby her is now part of this huge teaching hospital. I emailed her the link.  I also emailed her the link from the American Cancer Society that talked about a program for driving to treatment appointments.  She thanked me for my concern and said that she would stick with her local hospital.  Which has NEVER treated someone with her post cancer health condition before.  I have to let it go.  I am finding it infuriating because it is 7 days of receiving a mild chemotherapy treatment, other meds, and 3 weeks off.  She was griping about the side affects from the first week of the treatment.  She went to the local hospital and stayed over night in the emergency room.  I guess I am irked because she has the OPTION of going to the nearest city that is now part of this huge teaching hospital and she won't.  Yet she will go to her local cancer center for the 7 day on 3 week off treatments, count on her neighbors to DRIVE her places and make a general PITA.  Her response to me when I pointed out the nearby (1/2 hour drive) hospital was now part of the huge teaching hospital that gave her the treatment and there are drivers available through the cancer society.  She responded to my email and said she would never expect us to take care of her and her current support system is fine.  OK, well I admit husband and I have put our life on hold because of her.  He hasn't applied to the WA plant for his job which is actually what he needs if he wants to move up.  He won't leave the area because of her and he is an only child.  She is very needy.   Drives him and the strong willed wonder nuts.  I pretty sure I'll be getting my monthly hellion next week and that is what has me not able to ignore.  That and the fact that we're seeing her on Sunday and it will be difficult for me to not to say anything critical about the fact that she is willing to put a LOT of time into a treatment at low quality hospital when there is a better one available.